One of the biggest taboo of the dating world is the 'long-distance' relationship. Other than your friends whispering loudly in your ear, "You een never know what he doing" or "You know guys be talking to dat!", you have to deal with the perils of temptation yourself. Also, you have to maintain connection with someone in a different area code. Anyone with a cell phone knows how difficult doing it may be. Being in a relationship with someone who has to be away from you for reasons such as work, school and things of the kind is tough. People claim it hardly works and because of it hardly working, you should avoid trying. They are totally ignoring that most local relationships don't last and some long distance relationships do. Obviously, the reason people don't endure a relationship is far deeper than what proximity the lovers are in; however, distance can be a problem if not handle appropriately.
One reason why long distance relationship last is because the people in the relationship are likely to think of their relationship in an overly positive light. Take the case of Janiquwanna Josey and Sanchez Sawyer. Sanchez went off to college and Jani didn't. During the distance, they both would only reflect on the good times they had together and not the bad. They would do this for the whole 4-5 months of his departure; therefore, they feel as though they had a pure relationship for 4-5 months because of the absence of the fluctuation of happiness which is experience in a normal day to day relationship. This isn't good because when they reunite, Jani will realize she isn't in love with Sanchez but rather she's in love with the Sanchez which she had created in her mind.
Couples engaging in a long distance relationship should attempt to have a consistent and relatively constant interaction with one another. Become iCouples and eLovers. Utilize web cams, web mics, email and instant and text messages. What also should be done is you must have excellent communication skills. Just like in a local relationship, tell him/her of your day; show or express your true emotion and mood. Talk about you day as you would do in a face-face conversation. This is a good time to express intimacy without the sexually, physical element. Whether 'absence' will make the heart grow fonder or go wonder is up to you
One reason why long distance relationship last is because the people in the relationship are likely to think of their relationship in an overly positive light. Take the case of Janiquwanna Josey and Sanchez Sawyer. Sanchez went off to college and Jani didn't. During the distance, they both would only reflect on the good times they had together and not the bad. They would do this for the whole 4-5 months of his departure; therefore, they feel as though they had a pure relationship for 4-5 months because of the absence of the fluctuation of happiness which is experience in a normal day to day relationship. This isn't good because when they reunite, Jani will realize she isn't in love with Sanchez but rather she's in love with the Sanchez which she had created in her mind.
Couples engaging in a long distance relationship should attempt to have a consistent and relatively constant interaction with one another. Become iCouples and eLovers. Utilize web cams, web mics, email and instant and text messages. What also should be done is you must have excellent communication skills. Just like in a local relationship, tell him/her of your day; show or express your true emotion and mood. Talk about you day as you would do in a face-face conversation. This is a good time to express intimacy without the sexually, physical element. Whether 'absence' will make the heart grow fonder or go wonder is up to you
What do you have to say to someone who practiced atleast 85% of the advice you presented but still got an undesired result?
ReplyDeleteAlso, although I agree that Sanchez and Jani shouldn't have let their love live off of just memory; these some memories will be very helpful along with the other practices.
"In life our experiences mold us. And with experience comes the loss of innocence"- OJEB. To anyone entering into an l.d. relationship, I bid you good luck and God speed.
It is up to "you" but it is also very much up to "them"
I mentioned that. I think it doesn't work because they weren't right for one another... or because one or both of the partners weren't ready for a 'Long-Distance' commitment. Remember, some relationships, dissipate regardless of the convenience.
ReplyDelete"Obviously, the reason people don't endure a relationship is far deeper than what proximity the lovers are in; however, distance can be a problem if not handle appropriately."