Pick-up Lines: How was heaven when you left it?

Women claim pick-up lines don't work. Well, that may be true if you say something like, "I miss my teddy bear. Would you sleep with me?" or "Gee, for a fat girl you sure don't sweat much." Whistling at her to get her attention and saying, "Your Daddy must be a farmer because you grew some nice melons?" is funny but not productive.
Pick-up lines work when they are kept to a minimum. Quit the generic 'lines' and be a bit creative. Remember, you are only trying to accomplish two things with a pick-up line. Those two things are: 1. Get her attention while maintaining a good first impression; 2. Open the door for a 1-3 minute conversation. Pick-up lines are for those who may feel a bit timid to get a decent conversation going. It's always good to have some basics in your head. Here are five productive pick-up lines.
　
How does this shirt look??

This is a very popular choice of one of my friends. When you spot a female who attracts you, ask for her to opine on something. For example, if you're in a clothing store, you can say, "I'm going to my family reunion and I'd really like your opinion on an outfit for me" or "I'm buying my sister a birthday gift and I have NO idea what to get." By the way, ladies like guys with sister around the same age... don't know why. This line works best in a jewelry store.
　
Stacey??

This may sound cheesy, but, trust me: it works!! Walk up to a woman and call her any random name as if you thought she was someone you know. For example, walk up to her and casually say, "You're Stacey, right?" Depending on her response, you'll determine whether she's annoyed. If she just denies you pleasantly and looks to you for your reaction (which is most likely), you can give her some info about yourself; like, "Oh, I'm sorry! You really look like someone from my Psychology class." or "Oh, you really look like Stacey from the modeling agency I'm working for." (maybe that's too much) This way, if she seems annoyed, you can walk away with your pride.
　
Wow, that's a cool necklace!!

Okay, if you walk to me and say, "You are hot!!", I would be tickled pink; but, these general statements don't work with women. They are too focused on feeling 'unique'. Although it's dumb, this is what you have to deal with. So, asking her if there are anymore like her at home won't work.
The trick in compliments is to be more specific. Pick something special about her. Something she's wearing, holding etc. would be good. Be certain that what you pick has grounds for conversation. Don't say "Nice shirt!" when it's a white t-shirt. If it's a cool unique necklace she has on or if she's walking her dog, you have very good conversation starters. Ipods can give you a chance to have a music conversation, stilettos is an opener for fashion and books can open an author discussion.
　
Have you watched...

Sometimes you need to be creative with your pick-up lines. Other times, the location gives you a pass. If you guys are in McDonald's, you can complain about the slow service. If you're at a forum, you can directly talk to her about the topic at hand (this obviously shouldn't be attempted in a police station nor a VD clinic). Asking her in the line of the ticket booth, "Have you watched this any other movies from this actor" is a lot better than something corny as, "Are you lost ma'am? Because heaven is a long way from here."

Can a Long Distance Relationship Last?

One of the biggest taboo of the dating world is the 'long-distance' relationship. Other than your friends whispering loudly in your ear, "You een never know what he doing" or "You know guys be talking to dat!", you have to deal with the perils of temptation yourself. Also, you have to maintain connection with someone in a different area code. Anyone with a cell phone knows how difficult doing it may be. Being in a relationship with someone who has to be away from you for reasons such as work, school and things of the kind is tough. People claim it hardly works and because of it hardly working, you should avoid trying. They are totally ignoring that most local relationships don't last and some long distance relationships do. Obviously, the reason people don't endure a relationship is far deeper than what proximity the lovers are in; however, distance can be a problem if not handle appropriately.
　
One reason why long distance relationship last is because the people in the relationship are likely to think of their relationship in an overly positive light. Take the case of Janiquwanna Josey and Sanchez Sawyer. Sanchez went off to college and Jani didn't. During the distance, they both would only reflect on the good times they had together and not the bad. They would do this for the whole 4-5 months of his departure; therefore, they feel as though they had a pure relationship for 4-5 months because of the absence of the fluctuation of happiness which is experience in a normal day to day relationship. This isn't good because when they reunite, Jani will realize she isn't in love with Sanchez but rather she's in love with the Sanchez which she had created in her mind.
　
Couples engaging in a long distance relationship should attempt to have a consistent and relatively constant interaction with one another. Become iCouples and eLovers. Utilize web cams, web mics, email and instant and text messages. What also should be done is you must have excellent communication skills. Just like in a local relationship, tell him/her of your day; show or express your true emotion and mood. Talk about you day as you would do in a face-face conversation. This is a good time to express intimacy without the sexually, physical element. Whether 'absence' will make the heart grow fonder or go wonder is up to you

The Honeymooners

The honeymoon phase! The period of a budding intimate relationship where energy is abundant, patience are copious, cornucopia of emotions are being appreciated and the 'honeymooners' are getting fresh dosages of each other and can't get it fast enough. They just can't get enough of one another. Despite this being the biggest strain to the average male dater's pocket, he is happy to do anything to make her happy. Women like this for obvious reasons and they accommodate the possible dirty laundry which is attached to him and ignores any flaw that he may have.
The honeymoon phase, which lasts ideally for a year (although sometimes only a weak in the Bahamian culture), is exactly a phase. It is a short-term rushing surge which flows throughout the body of the relationship, only for a short period of time. Lovers who built their relationship on the grounds of equality, friendship, respect and esteem of the personality of each other, will adjust to the newer, more challenging phase of their relationship after the honeymoon.
There are a few reasons why most people, being either one or both partners, don't stick around after the ecstasy cease existence. Such people are :

1. The Passion Slaves

These people are those who are addicted so much to the excitement of the amorous honeymoon, they sub-consciously perceive it as being a drug. Like every junky, passion slaves merely are looking for the next hit, so they become serial daters, bailing out when the fire isn't as big as the explosion. Something they want and believe they need, this fire is what they expect to be present in every relationship for it to be a long term success, clearly not understanding honeymoons are only so great because you haven't gotten time to see his/her flaws.
He is like a new toy which stimulates high fascination to you until you reach the point of being conditioned to it's 'wonders'. At this point, you have to ask yourself whether this piano's a toy or a love to you. Only if it's the latter, you can continue in the second stage of relationship with good promise.

2. The Commit-a-phobe

These people are simple, as people say, "scared of commitment". Because of this, commitaphobes abort the relationship when they feel the connection is growing to an extent of them becoming vulnerable or emotionally strong; all signs of a long term relationship outside of the honeymoon phase. This may be due to the commitaphobic person being hurt in a previous relationship or because the commitaphobic lover is afraid that the only thing next to long term relationship is marriage, and that's enough to make anyone second guess their moves.
The commitaphobes differ from the passion slaves because passion slaves want to graduate pass the honeymoon level and commitaphobes don't. It's possible to be both.

3. The Can't Graduate----rrs

Have you ever noticed that you're with someone and the relationship seems to stay floating on the surface. In other words, you both haven't submerge into your relationship fully. You know he's a nice person however you don't know why this honeymoon stage is lasting so long... and the next level doesn't arrive. Well you might be one of the many who have a problem graduating to a higher level. Passion Slaves don't graduate because as the relationship matures, they lose interest in the lackluster love. Commitaphobes don't graduate because of the fear of commitment. 'Nongraduaters' don't graduate because there's an unknown factor which leaves them on the level of a relationship with no dept.
　
　
Sometimes relationships merely don't work and the partner calls a quits not because he/she is a passion slave, commitaphobe nor a 'can't-graduater'. He/she calls a quits because he/she is sagacious and is being perspicacious in leaving before it gets too hard.
If you find yourself being anyone of the aforementioned personality types, be certain you know what you want. If what you want is a long term relationship, come to the realization that life and love isn't a constant climatic climate. It is a personal interaction between you and others where trails take place which normally are followed by bliss. Also, realize that when you're in a relationship which is solely measured on how you and the partner relates to one another. remain being yourself and date and like the frog, don't go looking for flies, let the flies come to you (I got that from Hey Arnold!). Stay being yourself and you'll find someone who will take you to the next level and beyond!!!

Kissing No-No's

Ever got kissed? If yes, have it ever turned you on? If yes, have it ever turned you off? If yes... have you ever turned someone else off with a kiss? If no, you're probably in denial. I'm sure everyone did, at least, one bad kiss before (I'm not talking about myself). If you, though, frequently kiss badly, STOP!!! Kissing is both an art and a technique. Before you become a good artist, you must first have a good technique. To get technical, you must know what to do. Before knowing what to do, you must learn what not to do. Here are some kissing NO-NO's.

1. Sloppy Woppy needs to Stoppie

I mentioned this first because most bad kissers are, indeed, sloppy kissers. If you find yourself french kissing when your partner is just smooching, you are sloppy. If you see your partner wiping his/her cheeks and around his/her mouth after a little kiss, you are sloppy. Here's some advice, you can either swallow your saliva before kissing or keep you're mouth close until you catch on to your partner's rhythm.

2. The Half of a Second before Kissing

Here's a problem that I used to have. Do not form your face too early before kissing. It looks dumb. And if you're a guy, it may be a turn off for women. The best thing to do is slightly pout your lips. Imagine going in for an open mouth kiss and your mouth is open well before the kiss. Some persons eyes don't close until lip contact. Their last sight is you preparing to consume.

3. Aggressive

During sex and activities of such, maybe the aggressive kiss is acceptable. Even in sex, it's mostly only acceptable in men (according to some women). However, kissing is an art... sort of like ballet. Kissing is not a sport. Kissing is not football, rugby or ultimate fighting. When a woman kisses and she presses soo hard, you have to brace you neck, that is when aggression has made it to its peak. When kissing, stay relaxed. If it's so good, try kissing longer; not stronger.

4. PDA's

Public display of affection is a No-No if your partner isn't that type. Give a small smooch to test the waters. If he/she recoils, then you should cut it out. It's also a no-no because it's annoying, too, your friends who have to sit and watch you two go at it with callous regard.

5. Lackluster Kissing

A saying is "Kissing is like drinking salted water: The more you drink; the more you thirst." Well that may be true; however, if the kiss is boring, ultimate satisfaction comes quickly and you stop craving. Therefore, boring kisses are like Gatorade. It is refreshing, but quenches thirst quickly.Try spicing up your make-out sessions. Remember, though, not to focus on the performance. You should, still, try having fun with it. I personally like it when it's up-side down. For instance, as your partner is sitting, you come from behind and tilt his/her head back as you kiss. The feeling of the touching of the top of tongues is....... different. Being spontaneous is also spicy. This brings me to my next kiss anathema.

6. Unwanted Kiss

Although you are to be spontaneous sometimes, if he/she doesn't want your kisses, contain your kisses. Nothing is worst than a kiss too early in a relationship. Another unwanted kiss is kissing in the front of his or her parents. Most find that awkward and you'll be losing major points. An kiss that I don't want is early morning kisses. I never had it before; but, when/if I get married, I hope my wife doesn't force me to be rude.There are more but I'm tired of writing. Comment if you wish to propone!! And remember "Life is a gift of nature. Love is a gift of life. A Kiss is a gift of love."

Finding Mr. & Ms. Right

The world has come to a consistent conclusion that nobody is perfect. Even Eve wasn't perfect to Adam and God picked her. We are humans; However, we still have reason to be optimistic because although no one is perfect, there are some people that are perfect for you. There's not just one either. There are some...though only a few, who personality and situation is compatible to yours. How do you know that a person is right for you? Well, I don't know of an assessment that can give a definitively dependable answer. On the other hand, you can be hopeful that he/she is Mr. or Ms. Right if you, him/her or your relationship with him or her has the following characteristics.

1. You are Good Enough

We love to change masks like we do underwear. There is a time to act sophisticated, a time to be a jungless... or jungler, a time to be silly, a time to be a nerd, time to show seriousness and a time to entertain. There's nothing wrong with changing masks. It is good, though, when you partner loves you for YOU. Loves you with the make-up off. Love you when you're eating. Loves you when you're sleeping. Loves you when you wake-up from sleeping. Its good when He/she loves you for YOU. If your partner doesn't, then your relationship will be as exhausting and frustrating as lifting up furniture for your mother. Even actors need 'Act' breaks and brief intermissions. Eventually, the whole play gets tiring because, "one man in his time plays many parts."

2. Save da Drama for yo Mama

We all know that every healthy relationship has it's arguments. An Argument is vessel for partners to vent; A utility to unleash; A medium for the mind. But, there's a fine line between disturbance and drama. We don't want drama.
First, we talk about fights. Everyone argues. We argue with family members so it's only logical that we argue with people that we're not as familiar with. However, arguments must be clean with the intent to bring clarity; not to trump or incriminate the other. One of the things needed for this is respect. Some people ignore the disrespect their partner has for them and find themselves having inane, insulting discussions. Another thing needed is the conflict containment ability. The ability to take a problem, find the root, treat it and minimize hurt feelings.
Secondly, there is some drama which goes beyond a rowdy piper or a queen b*$@%. This is the Jerry Springer, Tyra Banks and Murry... whats-his-name... drama. With bull ish too much for me to mention such as the girlfriend being a past lover of your cousin... to You and the girlfriend being cousin... to you being Islamic and the other being a Jew or one of you USED to being gay. I strongly believe that it's better to lack such situations.
Remember, drama isn't just trivial differences. If your relationship is free of drama, there's a chance he or she's the 'one'.

3. Easy as 1-2-3

Okay, this is the easy part. What is the easy part? The relationship is the easy part. Well, it's easy if you guys are 'right' for each other. A 'relationship' is merely the emotional connection or involvement between two or more people. Therefore, if you guys are right for one another, then the connection would be great. If the connection is great, the relationship will be great. Easy as 1-2-3... right? This doesn't imply that there 's no trials and holding the relationship together isn't dirty work. This doesn't imply that you guys are exactly alike. This implies that you and your lover compliment each other. The time together is not just tolerable, but wonderful. Opposites may attract but the connection hardly is forever. If this is a fact in your relationship, you might have found the 'one'.

4. Knowing what they Like

It comes in handy if you know what to say, what to do, what to buy, what mask to put on.... etc. When you take the role of boyfriend or girlfriend, you signed up as lover, best friend, lawyer, counselor, financial assistant, personal assistant, personal comedian, spokesperson motivational speaker and biggest fan. You must know how to do each of those jobs personalized to his/her personality. Therefore, you must know your partner's humor, talents, taste, SIZE, favorite things and, most importantly, his or her best interest. You must also be able to listen, to speak, to rub, to kiss, to console, to entertain.. etc.
If you lover know a lot of these things and put them to practice, you are very lucky!!!

5. Everyone Knows

If what you and your sidekick have is real, a lot of people will notice. Whether their response is negative or positive, the haters will know and your friends and family will too. I'm not saying you must look to mother for strict approval. I'm saying that if you notice a trend of everyone saying that you're very lucky to have such a bond with such a person, that means the Halo of both of you guys are lightening the way of your footsteps through the relationship, and others can see you guys Shine.