Finding Mr. & Ms. Right

The world has come to a consistent conclusion that nobody is perfect. Even Eve wasn't perfect to Adam and God picked her. We are humans; However, we still have reason to be optimistic because although no one is perfect, there are some people that are perfect for you. There's not just one either. There are some...though only a few, who personality and situation is compatible to yours. How do you know that a person is right for you? Well, I don't know of an assessment that can give a definitively dependable answer. On the other hand, you can be hopeful that he/she is Mr. or Ms. Right if you, him/her or your relationship with him or her has the following characteristics.

1. You are Good Enough

We love to change masks like we do underwear. There is a time to act sophisticated, a time to be a jungless... or jungler, a time to be silly, a time to be a nerd, time to show seriousness and a time to entertain. There's nothing wrong with changing masks. It is good, though, when you partner loves you for YOU. Loves you with the make-up off. Love you when you're eating. Loves you when you're sleeping. Loves you when you wake-up from sleeping. Its good when He/she loves you for YOU. If your partner doesn't, then your relationship will be as exhausting and frustrating as lifting up furniture for your mother. Even actors need 'Act' breaks and brief intermissions. Eventually, the whole play gets tiring because, "one man in his time plays many parts."

2. Save da Drama for yo Mama

We all know that every healthy relationship has it's arguments. An Argument is vessel for partners to vent; A utility to unleash; A medium for the mind. But, there's a fine line between disturbance and drama. We don't want drama.
First, we talk about fights. Everyone argues. We argue with family members so it's only logical that we argue with people that we're not as familiar with. However, arguments must be clean with the intent to bring clarity; not to trump or incriminate the other. One of the things needed for this is respect. Some people ignore the disrespect their partner has for them and find themselves having inane, insulting discussions. Another thing needed is the conflict containment ability. The ability to take a problem, find the root, treat it and minimize hurt feelings.
Secondly, there is some drama which goes beyond a rowdy piper or a queen b*$@%. This is the Jerry Springer, Tyra Banks and Murry... whats-his-name... drama. With bull ish too much for me to mention such as the girlfriend being a past lover of your cousin... to You and the girlfriend being cousin... to you being Islamic and the other being a Jew or one of you USED to being gay. I strongly believe that it's better to lack such situations.
Remember, drama isn't just trivial differences. If your relationship is free of drama, there's a chance he or she's the 'one'.

3. Easy as 1-2-3

Okay, this is the easy part. What is the easy part? The relationship is the easy part. Well, it's easy if you guys are 'right' for each other. A 'relationship' is merely the emotional connection or involvement between two or more people. Therefore, if you guys are right for one another, then the connection would be great. If the connection is great, the relationship will be great. Easy as 1-2-3... right? This doesn't imply that there 's no trials and holding the relationship together isn't dirty work. This doesn't imply that you guys are exactly alike. This implies that you and your lover compliment each other. The time together is not just tolerable, but wonderful. Opposites may attract but the connection hardly is forever. If this is a fact in your relationship, you might have found the 'one'.

4. Knowing what they Like

It comes in handy if you know what to say, what to do, what to buy, what mask to put on.... etc. When you take the role of boyfriend or girlfriend, you signed up as lover, best friend, lawyer, counselor, financial assistant, personal assistant, personal comedian, spokesperson motivational speaker and biggest fan. You must know how to do each of those jobs personalized to his/her personality. Therefore, you must know your partner's humor, talents, taste, SIZE, favorite things and, most importantly, his or her best interest. You must also be able to listen, to speak, to rub, to kiss, to console, to entertain.. etc.
If you lover know a lot of these things and put them to practice, you are very lucky!!!

5. Everyone Knows

If what you and your sidekick have is real, a lot of people will notice. Whether their response is negative or positive, the haters will know and your friends and family will too. I'm not saying you must look to mother for strict approval. I'm saying that if you notice a trend of everyone saying that you're very lucky to have such a bond with such a person, that means the Halo of both of you guys are lightening the way of your footsteps through the relationship, and others can see you guys Shine.